I recently heard through the friend of a friend of a friend on facebook that a private server finally started and got super excited. Came back to these forums after a year or so and found a discord link. Went to the discord but couldn't play because you need 3 people already on the server to vouch for you. No one on the discord I knew there and no one remembered me. After 3 days of chatting on discord I couldn't get a single vouch yet. With my horrible text based charisma it may be a year of chatting before I could get enough vouches to get into the private server that is locked up tighter than Fort Knox.
That is when I discovered there was a second private server. I went to that Discord and asked a mod to help me make and account and in 10 minutes I was playing The Realm again. Been playing all night and all day today and having a blast. The server is running great, I haven't had a problem yet. My only issue is trying to remember all the stuff I forgot about the game in the past few years.